Day 22

Being a husband is easy; just get married
Being a good husband; that takes effort

Guess i'll start this from the very beginning. This is my first blog ever and i've only been married for 22 days(hence the title). I've been reading, watching, surfing and discussing what it means to be a good husband and the quote above is the most straight forward way i can think to put it. You need to put your heart and soul into your marriage, your wife must come before you in everything that you do.

A good husband should have a pool of pleasure they can draw from everytime they see their wife smile. When you hold the door for her, give her your coat when its cold, or just let her pick the movie for the night you should be able to draw joy from her happiness. As it says in Genesis 2:24 For this a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. One flesh means that whatever pleases her should also provide you with bliss. On the other side of this quote it also means that when you bring shame or sin into your own life then you are bringing it into your wifes life as well. As a husband your love for your wife should be so abundant that you wouldn't ever want to bring shame or pain into her life, the easiest way to to do this is to keep yourself ( and her by affilliation) pure and wholesome.

To me it seems that the order of things should be
J= Jesus
O=others(wife)
Y=yourself